1. Build Anticipation
Arousal starts outside the bedroom. Flirty texts, whispers, teasing touches, or compliments can get her in the mood long before anything physical happens.
2. Focus on Foreplay
Rushing straight to penetration often doesnât work. Kissing, caressing, and exploring her erogenous zones (neck, ears, inner thighs, lower back) will heighten her pleasure.
3. Understand What She Likes
Every woman is different. Pay attention to her reactionsâmoans, body language, and breathing changesâto find out what she enjoys.
4. Use Your Hands & Mouth
Oral stimulation and manual techniques are often more effective than penetration alone. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endingsâknowing how to stimulate it properly is key.
5. Rhythm & Pressure Matter
Consistent, moderate pressure and a steady rhythm are usually more effective than switching things up too fast. Let her guide you.
6. Encourage Communication
Ask her what she likes in a sexy, non-awkward way:
âDo you like this?â or âTell me what feels best.â
This helps you improve while making her feel comfortable.
7. Mental Stimulation is Key
Arousal isnât just physicalâitâs psychological. Engaging in eye contact, dirty talk, or even roleplay can heighten her pleasure.
8. Be Patient & Attentive
The best lovers arenât necessarily the fastest. Women take longer to warm up than men, so patience and attentiveness lead to stronger, more satisfying orgasms.